You know that as you age, two things could happen. You either become more tolerant of others or less tolerant. You either accept the differences and foibles of those close to you or you become more impatient and judgmental. Obviously, if you want to preserve peace in the home, you must be more mindful of the things you are doing, thinking or saying because harmony feels better than turmoil and duress.
Here are some suggestions you can follow for a more peaceful home.
1. Change your viewpoint from judgmental thinking to respect and tolerance. Everyone is entitled to be an individual and live their lives as they want, even if it doesn't go with your philosophy or behavioral patterns.
2. Inhibit sarcasm and behaviors designed to threaten, lash out or intentionally hurt others. Support behaviors that show understanding, empathy, caring, and the ability to compromise. Also, set clear behavioral boundaries so others know what they can and cannot do regarding your emotional and physical space.
3. Remember to check yourself. When you talk, are you saying things that "build" rather than break down communication? Are your comments put downs, insults or demeaning?You can build good communication by asking open ended questions and by repeating what you hear for clarity.
4. Notice if you frequently make demands of others, such as demanding your family members appreciate you, be loving towards you or be accepting of you. Rather, change your demand to desire. In other words, what you desire from family members is that they appreciate you, love you and accept you. It's inevitably frustrating and disappointing if you have the unrealistic expectation that life is supposed to give you everything you ask for - but you can certainly make your wishes known.
Here are some suggestions you can follow for a more peaceful home.
1. Change your viewpoint from judgmental thinking to respect and tolerance. Everyone is entitled to be an individual and live their lives as they want, even if it doesn't go with your philosophy or behavioral patterns.
2. Inhibit sarcasm and behaviors designed to threaten, lash out or intentionally hurt others. Support behaviors that show understanding, empathy, caring, and the ability to compromise. Also, set clear behavioral boundaries so others know what they can and cannot do regarding your emotional and physical space.
3. Remember to check yourself. When you talk, are you saying things that "build" rather than break down communication? Are your comments put downs, insults or demeaning?You can build good communication by asking open ended questions and by repeating what you hear for clarity.
4. Notice if you frequently make demands of others, such as demanding your family members appreciate you, be loving towards you or be accepting of you. Rather, change your demand to desire. In other words, what you desire from family members is that they appreciate you, love you and accept you. It's inevitably frustrating and disappointing if you have the unrealistic expectation that life is supposed to give you everything you ask for - but you can certainly make your wishes known.